Hannah Mongie faced a difficult decision at a young age. She was 18 when she found out she was pregnant with the child of her boyfriend, Kaden Whitney, whom she’d only been dating for several months. They made the choice to place the boy for adoption, feeling they weren’t ready to care for him. Mongie carried the child but then, when Whitney suddenly died during her pregnancy, she felt unsure if she could go through with letting him go.
“I was just so depressed. I was not going to think of adoption at all. The baby was my last part of Kaden,” Mongie later told “Today.” Ultimately, she decided he should be adopted but she made a touching video for him so he’d know how much his birth mother truly loved him and how difficult it was for her to let him go. Watch it below.
“One day I woke up, and I just knew that you were supposed to be with someone else. So, I went and searched for families,” Mongie said in the video. “I found your parents, Brad and Emily Marsh, and I fell in love with them. They were beyond anything I could have asked for, and I have really, really high standards for anyone who’s going to raise my child.”
The video is extremely heartfelt, and Mongie said she hopes “anyone who watches this will be able to gain a new perspective on what the birth mom goes through.” Mongie’s son, Taggart, was adopted in March 2016, but she only recently shared the video via the Love What Matters Facebook page. Since it was posted on Jan. 5, it has been watched about 3 million times!
One year ago today was the best, most incredible and most tiring day of my existence. I gave birth to the love of my life. The most beautiful baby boy in the whole entire world. He is my heart and my soul. This baby boy has saved me in ways I could never explain. He is the reason I love God and the reason I have so much love for Jesus and for the Atonement. I will never be able to express to him how grateful I am that he became apart of my life. I don't know what I would do without him. I am not me without him here on this earth. He has given me purpose. From the moment I heard his cry, tears flowed from my eyes. They were tears of a new kind of love that I had never experienced before. The all consuming love that a mother has for her child. If I could go back and live these three days of agony all over again, I would do it in a heartbeat. Happiest first birthday to the love of my love, my sweet Taggart Kaden Marsh. You will always be my first true love.
Mongie and the Marshes have an open adoption, so she still gets to see little Tagg “all the time.”
Happy Birth Mother's Day to all of the mamas out there who have either lost a child or are unable to hold them in their arms today. You are my hero. And to Tagg: Taggy baby, you are the absolute love of my life. My reason for living. My everything. I love you with every fiber of my being and I thank Heavenly Father for you every day of my life. I love you so much, sweety!
The Marshes also have two other adopted sons, who also have open adoptions.
“Our birth moms are kind of put on a pedestal at our house,” Emily Marsh told ABC News. “We have a picture of each kid with their birth mom on their nightstands and we speak very highly of them and they’re very respected in our home.”
A year ago today, I met the best mommy and daddy (and Carter) for the first time ever. I knew from the second I found them that they were the ones who needed to become Taggy's family. It's crazy to think that we have only been in my life for a year. It feels as though we have known each other for a lifetime and they are some of my closest friends/family now. I truly can testify that God has a plan for all of us and he put these wonderful people in my life for a reason. #familiesareforever #adoption #birthmomlove
Open adoption agreements are decided upon between the birth parents and the adopting parents and can manifest in varying degrees. But according to America Adopts, “Studies show that there are huge benefits for all members of the triad, especially to the adopted child. Openness allows adoptees to know who they are and where they came from, giving them self-esteem and a strong sense of identity.”
And it’s clear that little Tagg is loved very much by both parties, and just so he’d never have to wonder about that fact, his birth mom always has the touching video to prove it.